Uncomfortable Truths – Part 2

I had no intention of writing a Part 2 on this subject, yet I know there are other important points I left out. The reactions from a few people have confirmed in my mind that it needs to be said. Overall, the blog has been very well received.

Part 1 has been read almost 4,000 times as I’m writing this blog, far more reads than any other blog I’ve written. I’ve written over 50 blogs, so clearly, it’s resonating with a lot of dog owners and enthusiasts. It’s been shared here in Australia and overseas, for which I’m very grateful.

I recognise that human nature is flawed for various reasons, yet in this case, it’s the dog that pays for our shortcomings. Admittedly, I became a dog trainer for my own selfish needs — all I wanted to do was work with dogs all day. As their warm and silly behaviour is very infectious. I couldn’t stand being locked up in a warehouse, factory, or office. Being self-employed was always a goal; I never saw myself being employed long-term.

In my mind, being a dog trainer puts me in a position of being a caretaker of sorts for them. The dog itself has done so much for me that I could write a book on that subject alone. Maybe I will, maybe I won’t. But I will guard their safety and future well-being with my life.

Delusional thinking is alive and well, and unfortunately for all of us — both two-legged and four-legged — this is a real problem. Particularly when hard-working, decent people are deceived and manipulated by these narcissistic types. They use emotionally charged language and controlling techniques such as shaming and guilt-tripping. No decent, compassionate, and empathetic person wants to be seen or thought of as cruel. This is their tactic of the “Force-free or Pure-positive trainer”. Yes, they believe their own lies, as all narcissists do. Asking a narcissist to question themselves or engage in self-reflection is like pouring acid on them. They are pathologically insecure; they simply cannot do it. I have more than enough practice dealing with them — I speak from a lifetime of experience.

When they are questioned, the predictable gaslighting, snickering, judgement and smearing begin. Not to mention the moral posturing, virtue signaling and the know-it-all attitude/ arrogance that always takes place, along with the compulsive lying that is simply a given.

These types are everywhere, and I cannot do anything about that. I know what I’d like to do, yet this would do nothing for my future, so here I am, taking the high road.

I meet dog owners every day to help them with their dogs, and so many have fallen victim to this garbage that others call “ethical dog training.”

Like I said in Part 1: don’t give up. Most dog issues are normally easily fixed. In most cases I can sort it out simply issues in just 2 or 3 sessions. Some dogs take more work than others. If a trainer cannot explain, demonstrate, and teach in a simple and easy-to-learn way, I’d be questioning it straight away.

As Albert Einstein said:

“If you can’t explain it simply, you don’t understand it well enough.”

If you have any questions, please feel free to contact me.